They say “it takes a village to raise a child”…. Well what if that village isn’t really a village, but a group of mom’s all over the world? That’s one of the wonderful things about social media and the internet. My “village” has women from all over the United States, as well as in the UK, Australia, New Zealand, Canada, and Germany! We started as a group of mom’s who had babies in the same month, and have grown to become good friends with a common denominator. Our babies brought us together, but we are so much more than that now.
We are all going through the same stages with our kids at the same time.
Sleep regressions, yep we are all tired. Terrible twos, got that covered. Potty training, everyone is cleaning up pee right now. We can share our ups and downs from every stage and we all get it because we are all in the same stage right now.
It’s pretty cool to be able to say “my friend in Australia….” when talking to others. I love having friends in all parts of the world, although the time change makes things interesting sometimes.
Speaking of time change… holidays last two days!
It’s already tomorrow in New Zealand and Australia, which means they are already celebrating what we will celebrate tomorrow. For example, the day before my birthday here was already my birthday there. So I was getting birthday wishes the day before and the day of. Same with any other holidays that we all observe, such as Christmas and New Year’s.
Learning a new culture.
I never knew that Mother’s Day wasn’t celebrated on the same day everywhere until I joined my group. In the UK it is in a completely different month than it is in the US. They have different traditional meals for the holidays. Their houses are very different. It’s just neat to be able to learn all the unique things about the different countries of the world through friends like this.
We have all become such good friends, and we have learned not to judge each other. We all have very different styles of parenting, so all have something to offer to a conversation. We try not to judge each other, and hardly ever have any negative comments. We have had some issues in the past, but we have been together over three years now, and have gotten through most of that. We have lost some members of our group over the years, sometimes over small petty issues, sometimes over bigger arguments.
I love my online mommas group. We have been there for each other through so many ups and downs. Many of us have had other children since we joined the group, some have lost family members, gotten promotions, lost jobs, moved, sicknesses, and everything else life throws at you. As I write this, it reminds me of wedding vows! We’ve been there for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health….. These amazing women are like my family. I know more about most of them than I do some of my “real life” friends. And I won’t ever know for sure what the outcome would have been, but it’s very likely that these amazing women just may have saved my youngest son’s life.
It doesn’t matter where your village is, or who your village consists of. Just find a village. Find a group of people that you can count on to cry with you, cheer for you, accept you, laugh with you, guide you, and help you through this crazy journey of parenting. We are hitting the 3’s with our little ones now, and I feel like their advice has helped me in so many ways!