Today, my baby is no longer a baby. My youngest son, Ryan, is two years old! Two fun, crazy, challenging years that have been filled with our share of ups and downs raising two little boys. I have read many birth stories, especially from friends, and it seems like the stories seem to fit the child’s personality. Ryan is no exception. His birth was a whirlwind and so is he! His birth story also serves as a testament to bust the myths that babies slow down in late pregnancy. Babies do not slow down! Make sure you count the kicks!
I found out I was pregnant with Ryan in July 2014. We decided to start trying for our second right after Tyler’s first birthday, and I got pregnant the first month! We announced it to family and friends by putting Tyler in a shirt that said
only child big brother and sent that out. Once I went to my OB for the first visit, it was determined that the due date is April 4th.
Fast forward a few months and in December we moved to Texas. I had to find a new doctor, and learn a new hospital. We met with a wonderful doctor here who cared for me throughout the remainder of the pregnancy. Justin and I did the hospital tour to learn how the hospital here does things. Most of the other couples in the group were first time parents, but I wanted to know what we could expect.
March 20, 2015, 3:59pm
I had been noticing that the baby (we didn’t find out the sex until birth) wasn’t moving the same. It’s not that I didn’t feel any movement, it was just different. Usually, anytime I would lay down he would move and anytime I stood up he would move. That was decreased. Drastically. Enough that it was very obvious to me. I went to my facebook group for June 2013 babies, Tyler’s group, since we have multiple nurses and midwives in there:
“Ok I don’t remember who our midwife and nurse mommy’s are or I’d just do a PM since this isn’t June Baby related…. Is it normal for baby movements to slow down a little bit this late? I’ll be 38 weeks tomorrow. I only got to 37 weeks with Tyler so I didn’t experience this late pregnancy stage. I still feel baby moving multiple times per day, but it was almost every time I laid down and now it isn’t as often in the last couple days. I’m definitely still feeling movements though. Normal, or should I call the after hours line? My dr office just closed for the weekend.” March 20, 2015 3:59pm
One of the midwives almost immediately responded saying that any change in baby’s movement is not normal and to call the dr. Of course, by this time the office was closed so I got the after-hours line. They called the doctor on call for the group I went to, who called back and asked me to go to the hospital for monitoring. We were supposed to go out to eat with Justin’s family, but instead told them, very calmly, we were heading to the hospital.
March 20, 2015, 5:45pm
Justin and I gathered the few things we would need in the event I am admitted and head to the hospital. I didn’t tell anyone yet, because I didn’t want to worry them if it turned out to be nothing. Luckily the hospital is only about 15 minutes away, so it didn’t take long. The doctor let them know I was on the way, and we were taken back pretty quickly after just a tiny bit of paperwork.
March 20, 2015, 6:41pm
I was taken to an observation room and given a hospital gown to put on. The nurse put me on the fetal heart monitor, and we were all immediately concerned. I could hear the decrease in heart rate and saw the look on the nurses face. She had me lay on my left side with no improvements, then my right. The heart rate started to stabilize, and she called in the on-call doctor. Dr. Uribe-Torres did an ultrasound, and said that the fluid is low, heart rate is decreasing, and we need to do a cesarean now since I was at 37 weeks 6 days. They were afraid to induce labor and put the baby under more stress. Justin called his parents while I called mine to let them know what was going on.
And then I cried. I cried because I very badly did not want a cesarean. I cried because I was afraid of surgery. I cried because I was worried about my child and myself. I cried because I knew nothing about a cesarean. And Justin was there. He was there the whole time. There in the wonderful blue scrubs and hairnet they gave him to wear in the OR!!
March 20, 2015, 7:00pm
The nurses and doctor had me prepped for surgery, and I walked into the OR. Justin wasn’t allowed in while they did the spinal, so the nurse walked with me, and let me lean on her shoulder and cry, holding my hand because I was shaking. I was given the spinal and told to lay down, it started working almost immediately. Then they brought Justin in to be with me.
March 20, 2015, 7:28pm
After a bunch of tugging and pulling and general uncomfortableness on my part, Ryan Lee was born weighing 6 pounds 8 ounces, 19 inches long. They held him up for Justin to see and he got to tell me ,”it’s another boy!” The anesthesiologist was wonderful, and knew how nervous I was, so as soon as Ryan was out he gave me something in my IV to help calm my nerves. It turns out the cord was wrapped around Ryan’s ankle, which is why he slowed down. They said that basically, any time he moved, he was cutting off his own oxygen. And then, they double-checked and did the tubal ligation I was wanting. No more babies for me!
COUNT THE KICKS!
Before this happened, I thought the only worry was no movement. I didn’t know that a change in movement was also a sign that something may be wrong with the baby. I am so very thankful to be part of such an amazing momma’s group. Without their guidance and reassurance, Ryan may not be here. I cry every time I read through those posts or the timehop shows me one of the posts around this. They had me in so quickly to surgery, it showed just how urgent everything was.
It is a myth that babies slow down near the end of pregnancy. They do not run out of room. Any change in movement should be reported to your doctor, or just go to the hospital if it is a long drive.
http://www.countthekicks.org/ is a great website with many resources for babies movements in the third trimester.
If you are ever in doubt, go get checked out. You never know what is going on in there, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.