If you are friends with me on Facebook, you will know that I hardly, if ever, post something negative. I try to keep everything I post on the positive side, or at least neutral. I do this for multiple reasons, and I think it’s something that a lot of people should consider as well.
You Never Know Who’s Watching/Reading
We’ve all heard it many times, employers and possible future employers are combing through social media to get an idea of who you are. If you are posting negative things about your job, your boss, your coworkers, it may be seen. It could be seen by your current employer, which could cause disciplinary action, or even firing, depending on the severity of the post. If you are applying for a job, and a future employer sees negative posts, they will probably pass you over for the next candidate, because who knows what you would post about them in the future?
And it’s not only employers who may see what you post, but friends, family, future family (in-laws anyone?).
There’s Enough Negative In The World
Seriously, I don’t even watch the news anymore, it’s all negative. It’s all killing and hate and crime and I don’t want to hear about it. I don’t want all those negative thoughts filling my evenings. I would rather be blissfully ignorant about it and enjoy dinner and play time with my family. This world seems to be full of so much hate, I don’t need to add to it with any negative posts. The local country station that I sometimes listen to taking Tyler to school in the morning has a segment called their “Can I Get An Amen” story of the day… it’s always a positive story about something that has happened recently. They say they are using the Power of Positivity to Focus on the Good and I love it. I look forward to it. I follow their facebook page just for those stories on the days I don’t listen.
People Remember The Negative More Than The Positive
There are many people that I am friends with on facebook who haven’t ever met my husband, I don’t want them to potentially have a negative feeling towards him the first time they meet him. That kind of thing sticks out to people. You can post 100 positive things about someone/something and no one remembers the specifics, but post a bad feeling and everyone will remember that. A good example, not necessarily on social media but by word of mouth, is someone I know who broke up with her boyfriend and started badmouthing him to friends and family. Then a little while later they got back together and her family wasn’t happy about it. They are now married and the family got over it, but it took a little while. He could do everything right, but they remembered the bad for a long time.
Negativity Makes You Negative
I feel like the more you let negativity in your life, the more negative you become. It’s kind of like when you have something you want to say or get off your mind, it starts to fester and becomes more and more of an impact on you. If you harbor all these negative thoughts, they start to take over and become more and more prevalent. I try to stay positive, I don’t want to let the negative thoughts in.